The Fake Boyfriend

We all know how it goes.
Generally, if you're a girl, you're going to get hit on on a night out.

Sometimes, that's wanted attention.
Sometimes, it isn't.

For me, the attention I got the other night was not wanted.
My girlfriend was out to 'pull' but I wasn't and I was trying very hard to be a good 'wingwoman'. It worked but, unfortunately, some of the guys she was with had friends who grabbed me and tried to dance with me.

Now, I love dancing. When it comes to that, I'm as game as Ellen and I don't need a partner to get crazy like Taylor Swift does at award shows. ('I'm dancing on my own. Make the moves up as I go')
But I don't love it when guys grab me and dance with me when I make it clear I'm not interested.
So I did what any rationally thinking 20 year old does to make it clear to the guy and told them I had a boyfriend.
That should be enough, right?
If a guy I started dancing with told me he had a girlfriend, I'd nod and say 'sorry' and dance in the opposite direction.
These guys? Nope. They didn't care. One of them told me I was 'gorgeous' so I thanked him but he was still dancing close against me so I repeated the 'boyfriend' thing and he just laughed and said 'let yourself go'. I did not want to do that so I gave my friend the warning glance and we danced away to a different part of the club.
When our guy friends got back, I almost pounced on them; I was that relieved.
One of them was also 'on the pull' so I asked the one non-single guy if he'd do me a favour and pretend to be my boyfriend. He laughed and asked which guy was a creep so I simply said 'all of them'.
One guy was nice though. He started dancing near me and I told him I had a boyfriend and hugged my friend and he shook his hand!
Like, actually shook his hand!
I'm not gonna lie. That made me feel kinda good inside and my friend said it was a good gesture.

Anyway, this is actually an issue.
You see, this may be a casual story about a night out but the problem with it is that I shouldn't have had to think of an excuse in the first place. If I don't want to dance with someone, that should be enough of a reason. I shouldn't have to say the word 'boyfriend' fifty times until I can get away from them for it to be realized that I'm not interested.

I'm not saying I was really angry about it but it's frustrating that girls and women have to make up an excuse while guys just don't dance with the girl.

Maybe it was just that club. Maybe it was the fact that it was a Tuesday.
I don't know.
But it shouldn't be an issue in 2016. Have we not come further than that?

At the end of the day, it didn't ruin my night and I still had fun with my friends.

It's just food for thought, you know?

Jessica
xoxo

Supergirl

SO, I started this year with the intention of actually writing and keeping weekly updates or whatever.
Clearly, that has not happened.
But it's been a busy year. So much has happened.
I've started college, quit my job, lost friends and gained friends... I've grown up a little more.
Guys wise? Meh. I mean, I started going on dates this year was interesting... I met a really nice guy who came into my work and gave me his number. He was kind, funny, sweet and interesting but I... I don't know. I wasn't attracted to him. Not in the way that matters. So I had to let him down which felt awful. Then there was a guy whose name I won't mention ever. Gross. He was smarmy and cheesy and very sexual. He worked in a bar and he was a few years older than me (mid-twenties, I'm 19) so he wanted completely different things and I told him that but then I got a text from him later being kinda mad and I just... No thanks. Whenever I see him now, it's incredibly awkward.
I've also... Okay. My best friend moved out and her roommates are all lovely. Two girls and two guys. One of the guys has a crush on me. I've known this for a while but I've tried to brush it off as I love him as a friend. The other guy I've had a crush on since the second I met him properly. But he had a girlfriend so I never thought about it again because there was no chance it would ever happen. He recently broke up with his girlfriend because they had no future together which is a smart choice. You can't stay with someone who wants completely different things. It won't work. But, yeah, so they broke up and he found out I liked him and... We talked it through. I'm not really ready to date right now as I have so much going on and he's still in love with his ex. Then, a couple of weeks ago, we kissed but we had another couple of mature discussions about it and we agreed it shouldn't go any further.
Halloween, we spent the evening together (My best friend, the two guys and I) and he told me he wanted to get back with his ex. I was a little upset about it but we still talked it through and I wrote a song about it and we're okay now.
We talked again a couple of days later and he told me about something that had happened with his ex which had put him into a difficult position. I won't go into it but, for me, it was just another example of why they shouldn't be together and I told him that. I told him not to get back with her. I just hope he listens because I, truly, want the best for him.

In other news, I have incredible friends. Since starting college, I met a girl who makes me laugh every single day. She says dirty jokes and she's quirky and it's just hilarious when I'm with her.
I love my best friend's roommates. Love them. One is studying Journalism (I think) but she acts as well and she's so freaking talented! I saw her in 'Into The Woods' and her performance almost made me cry. The other girl is really funny. She's American and she's so smart. I want to get to know her better.
I feel like most parts of my life are going okay whereas the others aren't but that's alright. I mean, life isn't perfect. And it's how we handle the bad moments that defines who we turn out to be.
One thing's for sure though, I really want to move out. I want my independence. In order to do that though, I need to find a new job and start saving again which will be a challenge. I have an interview near the end of this month so I'm hoping it goes well.
Until then, I'll be applying to other jobs too and hoping.
Also, the reason this post is called 'Supergirl' is because I was that character for Halloween. I love Supergirl. She's awesome. Superman is my favourite superhero (tied with Grant Gustin's version of The Flash) and now that Melissa Benoist is portraying her on TV, I'm so excited! It's such a good show. Plus, I've always wanted to own the costume... I wouldn't be surprised if it comes back every Halloween/for every fancy dress party I go to...