Not the catchiest title ever but this blog is just for me which means I am the only one who will judge it later.
I'm in lockdown with my boyfriend at the moment which means I haven't been back to the South of Edinburgh in over a month.
It's been weird.
Lots of ups and downs.
This is both of ours' longest relationship and we'd only been together for 7 months when lockdown happened.
For someone who has avoided a relationship since her last one ended in 2016 and someone who had never had a girlfriend or even dated someone longer than a month and a half, that wasn't long enough to make us ready to move in together.
There have been some challenges...
But I think, overall, we're coping okay.
I'm a key worker within a charity so I'm still going into work most days and he's working from home but going into work is probably one of the only things keeping my sane right now.
It's making things seem more normal than they are.
Of course, I'm still reminded of how odd things actually are in the world at the moment.
For example, I'm off of work today.
I booked this holiday three months ago because it's my boyfriend's birthday tomorrow.
My plans were to stay at my flat the night before (30th April) and to head into town for my hair cut and colour so that I looked nice for his birthday.
On the morning of his birthday, I was going to head to Greggs to get him a Greggs breakfast and a coffee.
Obviously, none of those things are happening at the moment.
Instead, I haven't seen my flat in what feels like forever and my hair is losing its blondness.
I went to Tesco today and had to shop by following arrows and flinching whenever someone got too close.
It's been odd but I think he'll have a good birthday.
All of his presents from his family and I are wrapped and hidden in a cupboard, he's sipping on one of his favourite beers which I ordered from Brewdog especially for his birthday and I'll bake his cake tomorrow while he's on his racing game.
It isn't what I planned but I think it'll be nice.
I ordered some nail polish for myself though because, even though it's something I usually only do at Christmas, I need help with keeping myself happy and entertained.
This is kind of a rambling blog post and I feel like I'm not really saying anything of importance.
Times are hard and strange right now and it makes me uneasy.
A year ago, I was going to beer gardens with the guy I was seeing (A lovely guy who I ended things with because I hated my job and it was making me feel rubbish so I wasn't in a good mental space), I was meeting my best friend for a drink and wandering around Newington.
I was going to work every single day at that job I hated (Honestly, the biggest mistake I ever made was working at Standard Life but it led me to where I am now so I have to accept that at least) and buying a coffee and a croissant from Pret on the way (usually because I needed that one positive thing in the morning to force myself to go into work).
It was so normal but now it seems insane.
My boyfriend is extremely chilled about most things and he's relatively easy to live with.
I'm still paying rent for the flat I haven't been to in almost two months but he's not making me pay bills here so I'm doing all of the housework - something which probably sounds sexist but suits us.
He is also extremely sarcastic - something I've found harder to deal with considering my less positive moods over the last few weeks.
I'm getting used to it though.
And my situation isn't even close to as bad as some people's.
The stories I hear about healthcare workers living in hotels so that they don't risk giving Coronavirus to their families are the worst.
I find myself both wishing I did have a kid and also being incredibly grateful I don't at the moment.
I wish I had a child because I'm broody and it would be amazing to get to have so much time with them at the moment but I'm also grateful I don't have one because I'm a key worker and I wouldn't want to risk anything happening to them.
Everyone's kind of in limbo right now.
You can't make plans to travel because you don't know when you'll be able to.
You can't sit and relax because it'll be over in a few weeks because you don't know if it will be or not.
My best friend's grandad is seriously ill and I can't be with her or give her a hug or hold her hand and be there for her.
I don't even know if she can be there for him in what could be his final days.
I've sent her a 'Hug in a Box'. It's a teddy bear that comes in a box and it will, hopefully, cheer her up a bit.
As a control freak, these uncertain times are stressing me out.
Especially as someone who always tries to have plans because I've been more prone to loneliness since nanny died.
My boyfriend is helping though. Not as much as I'd often like thanks to games but as much as he can.
He'll be 25 tomorrow which seems crazy.
When did I get to be so old? I swear I was 20 yesterday.
He's wonderful though.
Unlike when I dated Hugh all those years ago, I don't know if we'll be together forever and I don't plan as if we will be.
But I love that I get to have him now.
He's so smart and funny and he makes me happy almost as much as he makes me roll my eyes at him.
I wouldn't have it any other way though.
I hope he enjoys his first birthday with a girlfriend and that I can make him feel as special as he makes me feel just by continuing to let me live in his world with him.
I can't say sappy stuff like that to him so I've said it here.
The reason I feel special is because I see how he is with strangers. Not super talkative, polite but reserved... He's very much an introvert.
With me though, he lets some of those walls down a little bit to let me in and although he's sarcastic all of the time, in the rare moments when he's not, I get to see someone no one else does.
I won't say too much more but I love him.
I'm glad he showed me what real love was and, even though I can't tell the future, I'm very glad he's in my present.
I hope everyone's safe and I hope you're okay, Future Jess, when you're reading this years later.
Love,
Jessica
xoxo
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